If's

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Last night I watched a man wreck his motorcyle at highway speed.

It reminded me why I stopped riding.

It left me thinking about “If’s”

If I hadn’t have been paying attention I would have ran him over

If the road wasn’t in such bad shape would he have gone down?

If the car to my left hadn’t been occupied by his girlfriend would he have listened when I asked him to stay down?

If the next two cars that pulled up weren't occuped by a physician and nurse would he have convinced his girlfriend to take him home?

If this happend somewhere else to someone else would the outcomes be the same?

It was a weird set of circumsatnces that worked in this guys favor after he went down. Hope he’s ok.

Eatori and the lesson

It’s horrible to made to feel like you don’t belong. But as the meme says “There was an attempt…”

Welcome to “New Detroit” 🤦🏾‍♂️

Welcome to “New Detroit” 🤦🏾‍♂️

I was asked to meet a group of friends here and I arrived early. On its face Eatori is another "New Detroit" door that caters to set that probably considers the box (Lodge, 94, 75, Jefferson and all therein) as Detroit. So be it.
I walked past the bar at the front of the house and made it a point speak to the bartender who looked me in the eye, said nothing and returned to prepping the bar. I've been "me" for a long time, and that doesn't bother me as much anymore.
Head to the back to pick up a sandwich and the back of house staff was great. I select a sandwich, and the young lady behind the counter says "We can bring it to you". I walk to the market register and ask the young lady behind the counter, "are these separate business?" she replies, "No, but we get that question a lot." After sitting in plain view of the bartender for 20 mins eating. As I rise to leave, she asks, "Are you done" I respond simply "yes" to which she then challenges me with "Did you pay for that?". Now I am trying my very best to be as open and accommodating to all people, but questioning ones character after showing so very little of your own hit me in a particularly sharp and bright way. "Yes, I'm very sure would you like to see my receipt?" She responds, "yeah." As I fumble to retrieve my phone to pull up the transaction, we both see the market cashier walking in the door. Before I can present my transaction record, she, in her best "Karen" impression, asks her if I paid for the sandwich. The young lady looks and registers both my face and the situation and freezes. Her hesitation said everything. She felt what I felt. Finally, she responds, "yes." I walk out only to find my friends outside in the park in the annex of the restaurant. I proceed to tell them what happened and the waiter immediately, without prompting calls out the bad actor. I say all this because no one should be made to feel less than, especially when they are trying to patronize a relatively new establishment. I chatted with the owner and appreciated her sympathy to the situation, but as she told me, "She's been with me for a year." I wonder how many others, in that year, had the same experience. What made her so comfortble as to ask, repeatedly if i’d paid. And in the most narrow moment of self doubt, what did I do to portray someone that would do that? My emotions want me to wish ill on the spot and have it shudder like most restaurants do in 3 years. But in my heart I want the XX number of jobs and good experiences to contiue becase that what we as a city need. To achieve that, you have to excise the bad and coach the good to great.

TLDR: Food is ok but overpriced. The environment is cool but tight. Service is far less than what I would desire, but I may not be the target consumer. And to be very VERY clear this is not racism. This is just prejudice. A decision on the level and type of engagement that I was to receive was determined very early in this transaction. If you're ok with that Eatori is the place for you. If you have an issue with that. You may want to mind your company if you choose to frequent.

Blink - The power and process of intuitive thinking

Absolutely worth the read. Spend the time learning why you should trust your gut.

Absolutely worth the read. Spend the time learning why you should trust your gut.

You knew it.

You knew it from the moment the question was presented to you. But you doubted it, and you looked for more information. You asked around and searched Google and Youtube and taking all this in you were squarely located in the “I have no damn clue” portion of this continuum. So what do you do? You take the conservative approach of “nope” I’ll just do what I’ve always done. Contrary to your initial feeling.

Blink provides you insight into why your inner voice is so accurate and why you need to be mindful of over-analysis. The cases that Gladwell unpacks provide excellent examples of how and why intuition works as well as why it isn’t suitable for all situations.

I am not a book review kind of guy, but I will say that this will provide you some tools that you definitely add to your decision-making continuum.

30 days at sea time lapse

Not sure why I liked this video so much but the visual analogy it burned in my mind was powerful.  

In life we receive, live or tell stories about experiences. And while the receipt or telling of a story are locked together living the experience varies wildly. A moment that lasts for 15 seconds can take two hours to recount and a 30 day trip like this unfolds in 10 minutes. 

 

Long and short of it I have a lot of stories and moments that I need to tell. I guess I need to make time to tell them. I guess my fear is will anyone listen.